(08-13-2019, 09:18 AM)Durandal Wrote: Still as true today as it was then. I was absolutely terrible to @"Sombra Hookier", @Miaou, @TheSauron, @Lythrilux, and a few others whose names I can't recall, in the not too distant past. I also absolutely lost my mind at @Kalhmera about a year ago. It sticks with me, and I feel wretched for it. I really worry a lot about virtue signaling with fresh blood in this community as well. How can anyone possibly see Discovery as a welcoming community when all we can seem to manage is trying to one up each other on a daily basis?
The key really is what Joe said there, to remember that there's another person on the end of the screen. Not going to namedrop here, but one of the most appalling things I've seen in recent memory was someone, who when confronted with that fact, simply said "I don't care."
...Well, god, why don't we? Not only are we talking about basic human decency, but anyone who enjoys this game and this community in the slightest has a vested interest in not driving others away from it, no matter how much their views may differ. We have got to start doing a better job of being inclusive, agreeing to disagree, and simply being gentle with one another. There's really no point to handling things any other way.
It costs nothing to show a little empathy, and try to see things from someone else's perspective, and the rewards can be quite great. I know I'm no saint, and none of us are, but we can all try just a little harder to make Discovery a better place.
Yeah, I've had my share of being a shit cunt. I've done it both intentionally and unintentionally. I've also had some pretty crap things happen to me as well. I own up to most of my mistakes, but I make no apology on who I am. At best I'd just say I'm reactive, but in all honesty this place is quite hostile and tends to bring the worst out in people.
I think the biggest challenge we face as a community is tolerance. There isn't any. I feel the biggest fuel this fire is the fact people invest so much emotion into the game it is hard to let go of what literally nothing but time. This place doesn't cost you anything but time, and it certainly doesn't build a future for you.
Again, I believe that until the arrogance of a majority of us in the community wanes off, we will continue to compete for nothing of any real relevance in life that is achievable here.