Despite Stolt has summed up the main point here, I will join your game of high-school parallels. Let's see...
(08-14-2013, 06:22 PM)Rodnas Wrote: [ -> ]You were in school, representing faction A(you) ....you have a very good friend (B) who is quite the nerdy kid but you like to game and learn together(allied) -you have another friend ©, who is your drinking/partying/sports buddy and you get along great (allied).
Now the problem is while you and C get along fine and are best buddies he is quite the nerd-hater and likes to rough them up.
The first thing to determine, is faction A. Who am I? What are my intentions, my morals, from what do I gain or lose? How much am I friends with B and C, which friendship is the stronger...?
(08-14-2013, 06:22 PM)Rodnas Wrote: [ -> ]Situation A: You bud C robs some nerdy kids of their lunch money, B sees this, is not victimized but knows that guy is your best bud and robbed his best buds
Am I very much against what C does?
Yes - Have a talk with him, but since none of my friends got hurt, I won't really do anything else than having a wrong look at him.
No - I couldn't care less, those weren't my buddies.
(08-14-2013, 06:22 PM)Rodnas Wrote: [ -> ]Situation B: Your bud C borrows your signature baseball bat "to show that nerds some respect" and once again beats up the friends of B, he sees he is using your stuff for it, still e is not victimized
Am I an aggressive/bullying type?
Hell no! - Then I don't even want others to use my bat to beat up others. Sorry, bud, get your own. (May eventually try to talk him down from committing such as well)
Not really - Well, I can lend him my bat, but sure won't have a part in the beating.
Yes - Gonna watch.
(08-14-2013, 06:22 PM)Rodnas Wrote: [ -> ]Situation C: Your dearest C does what he always does, and in terror B runs to you and asks why you don't help his friends and keep your hands idle, he can't stop C on his own
First: I don't know his friends, they are not my friends.
Am I a person with high morals?
Yes - Of course I go help, have a talk with C and will try to talk him off the beating. We are friends after all, I got way more chances at negotiation than these nerds.
Not really - Sorry bud, I neither think I could do anything with him, solve it on your own. Want to borrow my baseball bat for it?
Not at all - Ask B not to be a p...
(08-14-2013, 06:22 PM)Rodnas Wrote: [ -> ]Situation D: C beats up B - B comes to complain while you are still friends with the guy who beats up him and his friends
Crap gets serious, again, need to decide if I want to get into the conflict or not.
Get into?
Yes - Opportunity to resolve the situation peacefully, but risking that at a point I will have to pick a side if negotiation fails. Alternatively I could quit at that point too.
Nope - Nothing happens on my side.
Getting into the situation means the resolution will be determined not just by them, but by my skills at negotiation, persuasion, willingness, etc. If I don't get into the situation, only the two of them will have to resolve it.
Having to pick a side: Yup, negotiations failed, and technically both of them gave ultimatum, chose between them.
Am I greedy, looking at which decision may favor my interests better? Or am I morally high, defending the weak and innocent, etc?
Greedy - Let's see, obvious that physically C is stronger than B, after all C beats B, not vice versa. But considering the fact that B is nerd and have nerd friends, who knows what attributes they may have on the field of IT which may be of later use for me?
Morally uberhigh - Definitely gonna defend B... or will I? Why is C beating up B? Is it because he is just that kind of guy? Or is it because his dad was beating him too when he was younger, and he just have grown up in such an environment? How could I possibly determine who needs my aid?
(08-14-2013, 06:22 PM)Rodnas Wrote: [ -> ]Situation E: C uses your bat to beat up B and you run into the fight, both asking you to help
First: Take the bat back.
Then resolve similarly to Situation D.
(08-14-2013, 06:22 PM)Rodnas Wrote: [ -> ]The question is how long will he tolerate your knowing-but-not-acting-yet-supporting.
Up to him. It is up to him to decide what his reaction will be, up to him to value our relation, and that I act how I act. He could understand that if I do nothing is because I don't want to get involved, or could condemn me for my inaction/support. Entirely his call.
(08-14-2013, 06:22 PM)Rodnas Wrote: [ -> ]What will watchers from the outside think of your triangle?
That's also depends on who the watchers are, and from what exact viewpoint they are spectating the triangle. These two determine how much they know about the whole scheme and how they act based on this knowledge.
(08-14-2013, 06:22 PM)Rodnas Wrote: [ -> ]Will it be acceptable to them that you say these are friends in different areas of your life, thus you keep them seperated and they should deal with that? Will you be able to tell that reason to B with him "understanding" it?
I can't really keep them separated, as they are in contact without the need of myself. Besides, who am I to be held responsible for those two not being able to get along well with eachother?
(08-14-2013, 06:22 PM)Rodnas Wrote: [ -> ]Generally speaking, whatever makes my enemy stronger is something i don't like- i like my enemies weak or weakening. If a friend of mine supports an enemy of mine to reach his goals that are unrelated to me- doesn't my enemy gain more options and capacities to harm me? Yes or no? Would i like that?
Does your enemy really have to stay your enemy? Does your enemy really gain things from his relation with your buddy which he can later use against you? Nope, it's not really up to them, rather up to your buddy, see Situation B, answer "Hell no!".
Basically the personalities of involved parties, their aims, the natures of their relations are what determine if such triangles, squares, pentagons, etc can exist or not and the involved can coexist or not. If these parameters are not compatible, the relations will change, friendships break up, new ones born, etc. If these parameters are compatible, such triangles can happen.
Now, may I ask you, is that what you earlier posted the full list of diplomacy triangles you have issues with?