You just need to decide if you want to be an indy or factioned order pilot. Either way works for us - most indies in the order get treated pretty well compared to other groups.
What kind of ship are you looking to fly? In 4.85 we're getting a new bomber, and we could definitely use more good bomber pilots, that's one thing the order is pretty lacking in right now and most of our opponents tend to fly capships or bombers themselves.
If you need help in-game, look for either a Bs| member, Tenabras, "Au'Rora", Spirit_of_Fire, Armageddon, or Aki.Kimura (my character). I wont be online much until the weekend since I started up a new job monday, and I dont fly a capship right now so I'm not much help on missions for repping up - the others are in cruisers/battleships and are the more knowledgable 'indies'.
Once you create your Order character and get set up with your ID/Tag/Ship, click the "Roster" link underneath my signature and put in your character info so you can be added to the list of active Order pilots. If you're interested in some in-RP training, look at the Order Manual link in my signature.
PM either SwissScorch or Zavier on the forums. (Since I cannot find who is second-in-command.)
Apart from that Aki.Kimura (Tenacity) or Tenebras (stewcool) can help you.
hehe, I am the 2nd in command. First is Ascendancy and 3rd is SeanTheDestroyer.
Anyways, we're always recruiting but fi you want to fly solo for a while then yeah, Tenacity or any of the guys he named are good. But you can always look to any Bs| ship for guidance.
I guess I could put you in Delta wing if you wanted. You could fly under Commander Andrew Hobbes (me). I'd have to warn you that I'm not active on weekdays, though. Might be best to go with Bs|. Tenacity might be a good choice as well, though it's really up to you.