"The basis of their debates was comparable to chiseling out holes in a wall then filling them in with a thick hedge, sorting through which hairs needed to be combed, and counting out how many grains of rice to cook. How could they have been so superficial as to believe that would be enough to benefit society! If those who are virtuous are promoted, then people will stomp each other down in an effort to get there. If those who are intelligent are given appointments, then people will steal knowledge from each other. One who makes these types of assessments would never be able to sort through humanity. People get so involved in trying to gain personal benefits that a son would kill his father and a servant would kill his master. They would think it's perfectly fine to steal in broad daylight and tunnel through the walls of a house in the afternoon. I'm telling you that this great state of chaos had to have started with Yao and Shun, and the branches growing from it will extend for thousands of generations. After a thousand generations there will still be people who view each other as food."
It is quite natural when there are benefits to gain such as these that make people jealous, there is a lot of discontention.
You either stop valuing these things so much as 'prizes' for your 'good RP' like you stated, and doing whatever it takes to gain them like this to the point it becomes an achievement to strive for to feel good about yourselves, or you'll have these debates forever.
Do RP for the sake of RPing, have fun doing it. You be a good player because it will be more fun for you, and you'll really benefit from a good community. All of you. Do not expect toys to be given to you, and do not think that your RP is worthy enough for such toys all the time.