I haven't really been involved in any of the drama or interaction with this group, but I'd throw in a few comments:
1. Don't be overly discouraged by negative reaction to your group. You are here first and foremost to have fun, just make sure you have that fun within scope of the rules.
2. Don't take criticism too personally. Some people here are jerks...just like real life everywhere else. Learn to deal with it. Take the good criticism and try to apply it where it will help, and ignore the hating.
3. Don't build PoBs close to a jump hole, jump gate, or mine field....because that's a douche move.