the classic debate of sportsmanship - its straightforward.
do not gank
do not restock (carrier is ok)
do not combatdock (unless ganked)
do not acestack - you know who you are
do not wait for more enemies, take the initiative and switch sides
do not engage in a fair fight - sit it out until your side starts losing. alternatively, engage the opposite side's reinforcements
feel free to add more onto my list
most importantly, DO NOT CONTINUE THE GANKCYCLE, sometimes shit happens, we cant control indies, if you see that a rowdy bunch of them are not listening, take the initiative and disengage yourself, let them take the heat. THE COMMUNITY HAS TO SELF-REGULATE, if it doesn't then it will downspiral to some of theawful engagements the event had.
oh, and don't be afraid to get blued, its just a VIDEO GAME.