I'd like to put some of my own experience here to see if it can help
The disco pvp death timer I think is one of the trickiest rules i've seen in a video game.
Logging while "pvp dead" is always for me a dangerous game. Because although you may have no intention of breaking the rule, the natural course of a RP might dictate that you do and it is just plain difficult to foresee.
Although you "can" try to work around a timer to continue an rp with someone (or join with faction/friendlies that just logged) it's better that you don't because you're not exactly sure how things will pan out.