I dont know what others do. But I know what I do. I argue in private IF at all and, if no understanding can be made then I report.
I never report unless I'm sure its a breach of the rules. I seldom report on the first encounter unless one violation feeds into another and another.
There is nothing that sucks the fun out of the game faster than folks questioning your RP in private accuseingly, or makeing claims that are flat wrong.
I have seen people that have nearly gotten on my last nerve and I was ready to be crude to them but held my tounge, only to see them a day or two later, sometimes only minutes later applogizeing.
In one case I had a guy get mad at me for pirateing him in his empty ship. He said all manner of threats, I was ready to report his rules lawyering. However I didn't, to be honest, I only didnt because its a real drag reporting folks. So, I reserve it for those who dont even seem to be interested for what we are trying to do here. Thus a detriment to all our efforts.
However I guess while attempting to report me he had to read the rules to post the violation in the template and found he was wrong. He then appologized and suddenly I was glad I was not rude to him. Now He and I have the beginings of an RP starting.
But one new guy whose haveing a hard time has knocked some of the jadedness off of me. Deisol, I made a horrible thread about him trying to get him permabanned for somethings he did. I'm glad I was wrong, I'm glad he has not held it personally against me, and I learned a lesson myself. Even the most abhorrent behaveing people can and should be given the chance to meld with us. If they mess up sanctions will teach them.
The moral of the story, hold your tounge when your mad. The guy that your in disagreement with today may be your RP buddy tomarrow. It would be a shame to lose RP before it is ever born.
For the record, I am a veteran.............................of the U.S. Marine Corps. ( yeah I'm proud, So what!) Does that count Nooblet?;)