OOC. SirRed, I've seen you around the server a few times, you are certainly not a dummy. But you need to understand this is a Role Playing server. If you wish to engage in battle there a couple of things:
1. You must have some legitimate reason.... eg. "coz I want to PvP" is not good enough.
2. You have to familiarise yourself with the factions on the server, like what they stand for and who their friends/enemies are. Just because someone may be red on your scanner (with a Xeno tag, or w/e) does not mean you should attack them for this reason only.
3. You must be aware of politics and alliances going on around you. You pick a fight with someone, you must expect that other people may not like it. In this case TBH has an interest to protect SCRA, and they also do not wish to see battles raging over Crete. So Montoya gave you many warnings to break off, and when you didn't, joined forces with SCRA.
4. Then calling in reinforcements from Helghast was a bad move, as they are our sworn enemies. This has made you an enemy in our eyes.
But you have to remember SirRed, we don't hate you personally. This is all part of playing the game. I encourage you to read the forums (which you are doing now, good) to feel how things are done on this server. I know there are many things to read up on, but.....
(BTW being "KoS" is not so bad, we will only engage you if we bump into you.... not as bad as "Hunt and Destroy", where we will chase you all over Sirius like dogs:P)
EDIT: SirRed after reading again, it seems you have a better understanding than I thought. My apologies if I sound like I was patronising you:P.... my advice still stands.