My ping is 55-60 on Disco, but its laggy ( When I fight only ) , and on vanilla server ( stationed in America , the Freelancer Universe ) its 175 and no lag at all.
I disabled my Antivirus, ended all unneccesary processes in Task Manager, reduced my resolution from 1024 x 768 x 32 to 800 x 600 x 32.I replaced my router with a wireless one and deleted few programs in Add/Delete Programs .
It runs better now , although I could use some training in Connecticut and I still have little bit lag ( DDoS attacks ).
I live in Israel and I have about 90ms or so and it doesn't lag at all.. even with a 30fps I manage to hit well ( limited the fps just for you ).
I believe its all about packet loses, but an increase of fps will also help a lot..
No one tells you to purchase a new babe but even with your specs it should be able to run FL with atleast 70fps.
FL uses a rather "old engine" and similiar to "Call of Duty" engine, fps effects gameplay.
If u don't care about sound, you can have an additional 40+fps if u disable your sound drivers.
Or.. get 145$ and buy a good pc ( im guessing 2gb, quad core 8300 3.0 and ATI 6x series card )
Edit : I would also listen to Gypsie for the time being.. using a gunboat with TS will do the trick until u find another solution.
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