It's sad to read the reasoning behind your choice to leave us, but you're absolutely right that you prioritise your family.
It seems to be a recurring theme behind why so many decide to put distance between themselves and the community.
It's my honest opinion that the mod, the server and everything in between is built on people who go all out and drain deep wells of their time and motivation to see their favourite bits carried forward. The effect this drain has on people can make them opinionated, cynical, protective and selfish. It's never a good mix when someone is any of these things before they even get started.
This effect applies to all of us. While the satisfaction we get from completing our projects is real, so is the toxicity that comes with it. If you're invested in something in the game, you're subject to it, and while I believe it's impossible to avoid, being aware of it's effects and managing your expectations is crucial to striking a healthy balance.
Understanding why people being horrible is caused, in part, by this, will cushion some of the coarseness of the community and help mend bridges.
I honestly don't want anything personally but I do agree with a lot of your observations. If you feel like sending anything despite this please send it to XA-Mojave, it'll be used for the benefit of the Xenos and will certainly help me gear people up and get ready for all the trials that come with potentially attaining officialdom.
It's a real shame. But if disco is causing such problems, then perhaps it would be time to break off from it. It's unfortunate that you have to see it that way. If i had the choice of what i'd want from this giveaway, I'd personally would request a moderate portion of credits to fuel my upcoming {Voided} Event since my first part has already been done, With the second one being on the way and the third one will have a bit harder of a time since the credit gain is slow since I am usually ended up busy to where the credits would be slow. Of course, I wouldn't touch it as it all go towards the player event to where i will not touch it. Of course, It's your items and your decisions to make. The variety of the list must've been a hell of a time to be taken to obtain such things. Or at least personally a pretty hefty priced item that would consider more contributions to the said player events. Figured i'd give it a shot, Since the donations would help lessen the time. But regardless to that, Hope you can finally get things sorted out and perhaps you'll be a lot better off from now on.