I do understand where you are coming from, but you also know how Disco works. When a fun group is up, everyone wants to join and suddenly you are flying around in a fleet that encompasses half the ships online in all of Liberty. Maybe you could split the group in two and try to lockdown a system or something similar, for the sole purpose of giving other players incentive to come out and fight you? It will look more manageable on the player list.
Everyone uses it, let's not kid ourselves, so you can quickly see if a large lawful force is building, so you can regroup to take them on. Back in the RNC vs LNS days or even with GNG not so long ago, both sides were aware that you need to allow each other time and space to build up a fleet, otherwise there won't be a good fight. In the long run it's more fun to fight a fleet than to take out ships one by one.
I understand that you don't want to duel in snubs, and in no way should you be forced to (besides there were fighters alongside you from other factions who were looking for duels, so all that is just fine), but had I popped through that gate in a Liberty Dreadnought all by myself, I am pretty sure all of you would have piled on me and deleted my ship, simply because it gets boring sitting around in a large group with nothing to do. I can't know this of course, but I would personally be even less inclined to log to meet you in a cap, because I would be a sitting duck. It's not a question of snubs vs. caps, it's more of a play-style thing that leads to no-contest or non-interaction.
I mostly play unlawfuls and in Liberty, and I mostly play solo, so I know it's dangerous. But you can easily back down from a fight and use cunning (*cough* playerlist) to stay alive, there's no need to be an ace that kills everything you meet. Sometimes you even have to let traders go. It's not suicidal at all compared to flying a nova barghest in a group raid, if only you play somewhat smart, so I don't really buy into that.
EDIT: You weren't being retards either, you didn't send your entire fleet after me and so on, so I am not criticizing that at all. I just hope we could find a way to get some good fights, since you are so many.